Loss is hard. When you lose something or someone that means a lot to you, most people don't know what to do. In my own case, I've never understood what it meant to face your failures. Despite this, Dr. Leeper said today that we can't ignore our failures and hardships. I agree. We shouldn't avoid our problems, but that leaves me with a problem. I don't know what it looks liked to fight through sadness.
This brings me to the point I brought up in class today. I mentioned that I don't want others to feel the pain that I feel. This is because talking about it often doesn't help. I feel better usually, but that doesn't often last long. Really, when I talk about my personal pains and sorrows, I don't want others to really know what hurts me. I've seen how hurt my friends have been when I've discussed my fears and failures. It's not a welcome sight.
Yet the problem remains that I do talk about my pain. I do share what hurts me in my daily life. In fact, I often look out for new people who I can trust. But why do I do this? I'm not really sure. We often say that humans are social creatures, and we use that as the reason for why we discuss our problems. I don't entirely know if I buy that. I think there might be something more to it. So, not just for the sake of the class but for my own sake as well, what does the class think? Why do we want to tell others our pains and troubles?
While I do understand that sharing your pain with others isn't pleasant, sharing it with others who have experienced the same pain can help with feelings of isolation, loneliness and depression. As Dr. Leeper said in class, isolation is truly a form of hell, even if it isn't literal isolation from other people. Emotional isolation can be just as powerful.
ReplyDeleteFighting battles on your own is so unnecessary when there are so many people in the world wanting to help people going through loss. Nobody deserves so many burdens on their shoulders.
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